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Just a quick break from thesis hell to link to this: Photograph Of Little Boy Wearing Pink Shoes To Preschool Sparks Heated Blogosphere Debate

Which really reminds me of this: 5 year old boy dresses up as Daphne for Hallowe'en, other moms have gender panic

The little son of one of my kung fu buddies has an amazing pair of bright pink crocs with sparkly jewels on them. The kid loves those things, it's adorable, and they keep him from getting glass in his feet, so it's win/win, right?

Something just really bugs the shit out of me about the "but if you let your boy wear pink shoes, he'll get bullied argument." Because beyond letting bullies win, wouldn't that just reinforce the stupid cultural more that the bullies use to excuse their shitty behavior? And frankly, if there are bullies, they will find a way to be an asshole to your kid no matter what. They make fun of your clothes and you change your clothes, so next they make fun of your hair, or that you wear glasses, or that you're smart, or whatever. Living life because you're afraid someone's going to say something mean to you is no way to live.

And I would think that's no way to force your kid to live. But I'm not a parent, so I can't really speak authoritatively on that. Parents? What say you?

Also, I feel like the "but bullies!" argument is just lipstick on the pig of "but pink will make him gay" argument. Because it's still about fear that a little boy will be perceived as gay - not that there's anything wrong with it, there are just mean people who obviously aren't me, say the concern trolls. It really feels like a more subtle take on the the same old shit, just spoken in a concerned voice to make it less ugly because people have finally realized that we're fucking done with accepting overt homophobia.

Rock your shoes, kiddo. Haters gonna hate, life is short, get out there and make it work.


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Dec. 12th, 2012 09:15 pm (UTC)
Simon has a pink and purple big wheel. He picked it out himself. And absolutely no one other than grown ups has expressed anything negative about it at all. He also likes for me to paint his nails sometimes. If at some point in the future he doesn't want it, I assume he won't ask me to do it.

I've told people before, if he's going to wind up gay, that'll happen whether or not he likes pink or wears nail polish. After all, I married a straight man who used to wear skirts and full make-up to clubs.
Dec. 12th, 2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
You're awesome. :3
Dec. 12th, 2012 09:47 pm (UTC)
i'm trying to find that meme that was going around tumblr around halloween. mom asks young daughter: what do you want to dress up for halloween? girl: thor. mom: don't you want to dress up as something pretty? girl: thor's pretty.
Dec. 12th, 2012 09:49 pm (UTC)
Dec. 13th, 2012 01:57 am (UTC)
my brother had pink shoes for years
mostly hand me downs but when you've got two older sisters what can you do

it doesn't matter, he wasn't bullied, he had pink shoes end of conversation, he also had a she ra jumper and a my little pony back pack
in fact if you don't put them in pink shoes or similar they'll grow up thinking it's a problem and if it does turn out that they're gay then they'll be the ones who hate themselves and hide in the closet and make everyone miserable
you are who you are and you know what it makes him normal, and she should threaten to knock in the teeth of anyone who says different

I have tiny feet and I am currently rocking a pair of hello kitty kids mary janes because I CAN (and there is no VAT on kids shoes) but does it bother me that people might snicker about my shoes, no, in fact people ask me where i got them because they want them and can't get them because they have great big adult feet. (In US sizes I'm a 5 1/2)
rock it, I went to school with a kid who had a dracula cape and wore it with his school uniform (it was a very grey area where it came in) no one cared
kids are cruel evil creatures that should possibly be monitored or corralled or something, but of all the things they get to be mean about, pink shoes don't even come close. Especially if he's proud of them, they're like hyenas they scent weakness and if it doesn't bother him they won't either
Dec. 13th, 2012 01:14 pm (UTC)

Thisexplains some things.
Dec. 13th, 2012 11:25 pm (UTC)
What "kids will bully him" really means is, "I'm teaching my kid to bully him".

"Kids will bully your son!" should be countered with, "then teach your children not to. And please refrain from it yourself."
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