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I adore you, Tom Hiddleston. I do. And I totally grok what you are trying to say, here. But that word. Princess.

Sigh.

This is admittedly a bit of Rachael brain damage, but since this is a Rachael blog, I get to complain. I hate the Princess shit with burning passion. I hate it when people (normally guys) say women should be treated like princesses, unless the word princess is immediately preceded by the word warrior.

There's a lot of baggage to Princess. Historically, what were they? Women of royalty who (normally) could not inherit or rule. They were there to basically belong to their father until they could be sold in the cause of a political alliance to another man. At which point the purpose switched over to providing (hopefully) male babies.

And then there's Disney. Disney hasn't exactly made the Princess into an empowering concept either. Princesses get rescued by the man and live happily ever after as someone's meek wife. And if you look at the recent Disney "princesses" that have had more guts, most of them aren't actually princesses.

Princess to me doesn't hold the ring of respecting women. It conjures up images of paternalistic protectionism, rescuing the damsel in distress. So fine, I twitch a lot less when a dad calls his daughter his little princess, because he should be looking out for her. (And presumably not looking for a husband and political deals.)

Please don't treat grown women like princesses. Treat us like unique, powerful, and beautiful human beings who are worthy of respect.

Or if we must stick with the verbal paradigm of royalty, Queen is acceptable. But only if you mean Queen in a sort of Elizabeth I/Maleficent way. Because fuck yeah.

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danielmedic
Aug. 31st, 2012 07:54 pm (UTC)
Goddamn right.
Can I post links to this?
katsudon
Aug. 31st, 2012 07:58 pm (UTC)
Re: Goddamn right.
Please do! The original post here http://geo-geek.blogspot.com/2012/08/princess-sigh.html has the link to the quote to which I'm referring if you want.
danielmedic
Aug. 31st, 2012 08:04 pm (UTC)
Re: Goddamn right.
Thanks!

I guess I'll just link to this post and let people follow the links if they want.
katsudon
Aug. 31st, 2012 08:13 pm (UTC)
Re: Goddamn right.
However you prefer!
seraphim_grace
Aug. 31st, 2012 11:43 pm (UTC)
d'ya know something very odd occured to me the other day
disney princesses don't wear pink (with the exception of Ariel, but here's the thing, they don't market her in that pink sugarplum monstrosity) They primarily wear blue.
and what's even better is that the vast majority of them become princesses only by marriage if then
Belle marries a lord, Pocahontas marries a captain (actually she married someone else historically but) Mulan married a general, and possibly the most well written of the princesses isn't actually considered one despite being one of the few actual princesses.

- and to be a bit more pejorative to princesses, anyone from the rank of count and above who has a daughter can call his daughter "princess" in heraldry
so you don't even have to be a king's daughter/chattel, in fact historically even emperors gave up on that and called their kids "arch duke" or "arch duchess"
and I really want to do something about the duchess of cambridge (seriously she's a princess!) eyeliner, she's like cleopatra after a cat fight, you'd think with an army of retainers doing her hair and her makeup someone would take her aside and point it out...
utukki
Sep. 1st, 2012 12:55 am (UTC)
Before I married him, my ex told me that he would treat me like a queen.

Little did I realize he was referring to Anne Boleyn.
katsudon
Sep. 1st, 2012 01:07 am (UTC)
Erk.
danielmedic
Sep. 1st, 2012 08:43 pm (UTC)
Uff-da.
seamouse
Sep. 2nd, 2012 02:59 am (UTC)
sweet breakdown - thanks. and thanks, daniel, for the repost
dogmatix_san
Sep. 2nd, 2012 06:57 pm (UTC)
It doesn't help that I'm kind of leery of the modern/current concept of romance as a whole. What with the fluffy dolls and the candles and the roses. I dunno, I think 'romance' should be any expression of love that you do to make the other person feel good, and yeah candlelit dinners and such certainly have a place, but so do things like, I dunno, going places and having adventures because you know your S.O. likes to do those things (and maybe they haven't had time recently, so you make time, or use some time you'd otherwise have done something else with, and just. Yeah. )
katsudon
Sep. 2nd, 2012 07:15 pm (UTC)
So much of "romance" is "shit from romcoms" and a lot of that stuff seems really gross to me. It's all very infantalizing toward women and about limiting our agency, it feels like. >.
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