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It's actually quite difficult to say much about the wedding. I'm really glad so many people made it, and everyone seemed to have a good time. So that's excellent.

Thankfully I didn't get nervous up until maybe half an hour before the ceremony, when I got chased inside after pictures (argh, pictures) and had nothing to do but sit in the little bride's room and talk with Kat for half an hour. And I love talking to Kat, but there's not really enough distraction in the world at that point, when the reality of the situation starts setting in.

I spent a lot of time at the wedding bitching about my dress. Everyone told me it was beautiful, and I'm glad it looked okay. I'd be lying if I said it was any fun to wear. I know that women are supposed to feel beautiful and princess-like on their wedding day (in fact, most of the little girls that were at the wedding wanted to hug me since I was the "princess") but I mostly felt hot and sticky and like a very large boat trying to make it through a series of narrow canals every time I tried to get anywhere. It's hard to feel beautiful and divine when you've got sweat running down the backs of your legs and your crinoline is clinging to you like some kind of overly friendly jelly fish, trust me. And even worse when you can't possibly go to the bathroom without at least two people assisting you, which I did not want to do. So yeah. I am extremely pleased that this is the only time in my life I'm going to have to wear a dress like that, and never again.

Really, I was jealous of Kat's dress. She looked unbelievably fantastic and extremely hot in the not-temperature kind of way. It also looked much more comfortable and very much cooler (in the temperature kind of way) than mine. I'm very glad I didn't do the evil bride thing and make my one female bridesmaid wear something hideous.

Anyway. Everyone got lined up and I had to keep hiding inside the door with Kat to keep me company, and then she was off with David. I just about lost it when the music changed. I can't really describe how I felt, because honestly, I don't think I knew how I felt at the time. As soon as I was standing with my parents (since I had both my mom and dad walk down the aisle with me) I just started sniffling and crying and could no longer remember what the hell I was supposed to be doing, even though we'd done the rehearsal just fine less than 24 hours before.

I'm amazed I managed to make it through my vows without breaking down entirely. That seemed to be the hard part, though. After that, I managed to do just fine with sticking the ring on Mike, and the unity candle thing was actually pretty fun. It was incredibly windy so it was a challenge to keep the candles lit, but we managed to do it on the first try. Because we're good at teamwork. And then at the end of the ceremony I went running off and left Kat holding my bouquet because I was pretty much out of my mind at that point. But it all worked out.

My brother's girlfriend did the ceremony; she had to come up with something at the last minute and she did a fantastic job. April saves the day! She kept it short, and simple, and I think everybody liked that.

The reception was mostly just trying to make sure we spent a little time with everybody. I felt bad because we had to keep moving, but I didn't want to miss anyone either. We finally got to sit down and eat, and then I discovered I really couldn't manage to eat anything, even though the food was really good. Mike had the same problem. And then there was cake - which I DID manage to eat, and two pieces of it because DAMNIT IT'S CAKE - and toasts and those made me cry all over again because everyone was just so incredibly sweet. We also did dance a little bit, but that didn't quite work out because the DJ was having problems with his equipment. It was a little disappointing, but not as much as it could have been since Mike was feeling so frazzled at that point he'd completely lost his ability to dance. (My dad did just fine, though.)

The DJ actually tried to give us the check back at the end of the reception because he felt so awful about all the technical problems he had. We told him to keep it anyway, since he'd done his best. It would have been nice for the music to have been better, but I think the reception was just fine anyway.

At that point I finally got to get out of the dress (yay) and pee (OMGYAY) and then we got the hell out of there. We'd been hoping to sneak out, but of course someone made sure to line everyone up so they could throw birdseed at us. And then when we broke free of the crowd, Rich yelled "Run you cowards!" at us, so we did, all the way to the car.

You would not believe how much birdseed ended up in my bra despite the fact that I was wearing a t-shirt at that point. And we shall not speak of my hair.

Everyone seems to think that immediately after a wedding you spend a long time getting naughty, I guess because it's just so exciting to be all official and legal. The truth is, you get to your hotel room and you collapse in a pile and sleep. Then sleep some more. And if you're lucky, somewhere in there you've got the energy to take a shower before you take another nap. We actually managed to make it over to the Pho place at 104th and Federal and actually eat something between naps, which was good.

Anyway, we're all official now. Mike keeps playing with his ring, and it's really cute. The marriage license is getting mailed off today. Honestly, to me nothing else feels all that different... we've been living together for nearly five years, so I would have been surprised if something had changed. But either way, it felt good (and a bit terrifying) to stand up in front of a bunch of people and tell them just how much I love Mike.

Music used for the ceremony:
1. Star Trek VI Suite - Procession for everyone but me
2. Terra's Theme (from the 20020220 concert) - Procession for me
3. Star Trek Deep Space Nine Title - for the unity candle
4. Imperial March - Recession

And then all the seating music was stuff from the WoW loading screen and Final Fantasy medleys.

Mike's Vows
I, (name)***, take you, (name), to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not. I promise to laugh with you in times of joy, to comfort you in times of sorrow, and stand with you in times of hardship. You are my best friend, my love, my life.

*** Except on the first try, he said my name instead of his because he was so nervous. But he recovered quickly and started over.

My Vows
Mike, you are the most patient, forgiving, and generous man that I have ever met, and every day I wake grateful for the brilliant stroke of luck that allowed us to meet. You have my absolute love, and just as importantly, my trust, respect, and confidence. Over the last five years I have learned that there is no secret I need to keep, no part of me that you will not accept, and no one that I must be with you other than simply ME. I don't expect this day or this ceremony to change anything in our relationship, but I do expect that it will cause others to understand and accept what we have already built: a loving partnership strong enough to last a lifetime. I promise today openly as I have always promised in my heart that I will trust and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, stand by you in both success and failure, care for you in health or in sickness, regardless of what obstacles the vagaries of chance may put in our way.

As you can see, compared to Mike I am quite verbose. But that's how it's always been.

So now it's just time for hanging out with friends from out of town until they need to go home. Which is nice. I feel like I could sleep for 12 hours a day and still be tired. It's just hard to imagine all the energy (and money, and a little bit of stress) that went in to something that lasted only a few hours, which I can only remember bits of because I was just out of my mind. But I still think it was worth it.


( 15 comments — Leave a comment )
May. 24th, 2010 11:35 am (UTC)
eeee congrats! i'm sure you looked amazing.
May. 24th, 2010 12:08 pm (UTC)
Wait, what the hell? I have your wedding date as JUNE 22nd! I sent you my itinerary flying in on June 21st, twice!

I... I don't know what to say, hon. I fucked up huge, and... I got nothing. I can't apol,ogize enough for this.
May. 24th, 2010 12:17 pm (UTC)
CONGRATULATIONS. :D I'm glad you included the music and vows here, because awesome.

Also, holy crap, that icon is unbelievably perfect for this post. :P
May. 24th, 2010 12:21 pm (UTC)
Awww, that is so cool! :D :D Kekkon shita omedetou gozaimasu! :)

Hope you both have lots of fun, and lots of patience and all.
May. 24th, 2010 12:30 pm (UTC)
you guys gonna go on a proper honeymoon?

and, wow, 5 years? i forgot it was that long.

and yah, nothing really changes, which is nice =)
May. 24th, 2010 02:32 pm (UTC)
Congrats to both of you! It sounds like an awesome wedding, what with the Final Fantasy, Star Trek, and WoW music. XD I bet you looked amazing~
May. 24th, 2010 04:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry I wasn't there.

I wanted to be very badly, but the closer to time it came, the more I kept visualizing the possibility of danger. When the thing went down and I was minus one bodyguard, I just couldn't.

I'm sorry. I still love you, and wish you the best.
May. 24th, 2010 05:28 pm (UTC)
Happy Congratulations on your Joyous Wedding!!

May. 24th, 2010 06:14 pm (UTC)
I'm glad it went well! It sounds like it was awesome, DJ problems or no. :)

May. 24th, 2010 06:59 pm (UTC)
It was an AWESOME wedding and I'm really glad I was there!
May. 24th, 2010 09:35 pm (UTC)
May. 24th, 2010 11:46 pm (UTC)
Congrats, Katsu! Hopefully soon-ish I'll be dragging my Mike of 7 years down the aisle (once he gets back from Ireland!)
May. 25th, 2010 03:04 am (UTC)
I was wondering if there was going to be a write-up (and wonder still if there will be piccies). Congratulations to you both from down here!

And much of what you've written sounds awfully familiar... Although the day after, tooticky and I, and our families, were snacking on the multitude of leftovers we'd cooked. Going out for pho sounds like it was an excellent plan - less dishes to contemplate.
May. 25th, 2010 02:54 pm (UTC)
It was an awesome wedding. I'm glad I was able to be there for it. ^_^
May. 26th, 2010 04:26 am (UTC)
Congrats! We send love.
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